Balance

Finding balance in life is a hard task. Many times people can contradict themselves because words do not match their actions. Sometimes people can just change their mind or if their mind is open they can see another’s point of view and that changes how they feel. We are raised to believe in many things, from Santa Claus to God, right and wrongs of law and humanity. But there are different beliefs and not everyone believes in the same thing. So who is really right or wrong. I like to think there is no right or wrong just a difference of opinion. Yes there are some obvious wrongs, like Santa Claus. But what about the little things…That’s a lot harder.
I have been told many things to do and then I get told by someone else that it is wrong and that I need to do it this way, same with beliefs. So how does a kid figure out what is wrong and what is right. Well you are raised by your parents and you know them best and you should see what works and what doesn’t, they are your primary example of how to be a human, as we then tend to follow in their beliefs and rules and path.
I am blessed to know what my parents taught me and see how people are different and that not everyone was taught like me. I am also blessed since I’m able to decide my own path by following what I feel and what I believe. I don’t have to follow anyone, I can be myself and create my own path and that is great.
I really don’t like it when people contradict themselves and when they can not be open to something different. I haven’t gotten along with many of them since I can see both sides and I am able to put my self in another’s shoes and respect their ways but I hardly get it in return.
But I am closer to understanding them since I am one of them. I am sure that even I contradict myself since my mood changes and I am still learning and still growing.
A lot of things still confuse me but I just try and understand it, research it, figure out how I feel about and what I choose to believe out of it.
I know already in this blog I have contradicting myself. From the first intro I mention to treat your partner’s feelings as your own and then in the DBP parts I talk a lot about putting your feelings first. I’m really still confused on things but I’m just trying to understand them, figure out how I feel, what I see, what works, think of my own experiences, taking a step back, and finding what works.
Too often I put my partners feelings above mine and so I could never stay broken up with them, even if staying with them compromised me and hurt me, I still stayed with them since it was what they wanted and I could not bring myself to break their heart since I had treated their feelings as my own. In the end they never treated me the same way. So I was walked on and mistreated and wasn’t happy. I am putting a stop to that. My feelings are valid and my partner must respect them and I’ll do the same for them, it’s called a compromise. I will put my feelings first and I will still treat their feelings as my own, I just won’t forget mine. Balance.
Just find a balance for things, think of how it makes you feel, what you have experienced, and use your best judgment to decide what is wrong and right and what you believe in. Just as long as you’re not breaking the state/country laws or bringing harm to someone it’s ok with me. Be true to yourself and others. Keep an open mind about other’s beliefs and stand by your beliefs. Find balance and you will find peace.
No one is wrong and no one is right, we are just different and that is great. Let us respect that.
Have a great day ;3 Dea
*ps…I might not post anything for a bit, I’m going to be reading a book (not a inspirational one that I need to summarize –for once), just for entertainment. It’s called Beneath a Marble Sky by John Shors, it already smells soo good and I think it’s going to be a great love story and I’m sure to devour it quickly! Oh how my hands can use a break from typing.