DBP Chapter Four

Don't Bet On the Prince by Dr.Gilda Carle
Chapter Four
Project a Power Image
Gilda-Gram: We alone create our destiny.
Many women live mannequin lives, their opinions mirror those of everyone but themselves. They are women without power.
Men don’t want to share power. Why should they? Power is fun. It’s an aphrodisiac. –Cathleen Black
For women to get power we must create it ourselves. Even if you are shot down at first, never depend on a man to hand you power.
Gilda-Gram: If he doesn’t want you on his team, form your own.
For a woman to get power, she must take it, she must project it, and she must command that others respect it. If she gets criticized, so be it. There is a price that comes with it, but in the long run it’s worth it. This power does not come from controlling others, it comes from within.
Gilda-Gram: Before we fantasize being liked, we need to like ourselves.
Being able to find a balance in all aspects of life will make you feel whole. Being in control is important but so is being able to compromise. When we believe in and trust ourselves to choose appropriately, we can become balanced. A balanced woman is adaptable and is free to choose. She is free to exercise her power, for she is in control of her life and if others don’t like it’s their fault.
Power is never control over anyone; that only verify’s their insecurity. Real power is our deepest sense of inner peace, our comfort in knowing who we are and what we deserve. Knowing what we stand for and being willing to state it is our greatest strength.
Gilda-Gram: Take full responsibility for your own happiness.
A fully responsible woman is inviting to a worthy man.
Gilda-Gram: Praise and blame are both the same thing.
Gilda-Gram: We alone create our destiny.
Things happen that we have no control over, but we can control how we react to these things.
Gilda-Gram: Expect your every need will be met. Expect that you will meet each one yourself.
Gilda-Gram: Power is as power does. Power does as power feels. Power feels as power thinks. When we think of power, we project power.
Gilda-Gram: Nothing that you ever do can change the fact that you are you.
Gilda-Gram: Only part of beauty is in the eye of the beholder; we carry the other part in our image of ourselves.
Gilda-Gram: People make contact with people they like, and people like people like themselves. Put forth your most honest self and share it freely with others. Learn to wisely apportion the amount of giving so that your own needs don’t go unnoticed or unmet.

*There was lot to this chapter, just too much to summarize, and those grams gets the point well enough. They go into way too much detail that I did not care to really talk about. I do love those key grams though! Since most prove me right and I do agree with them. Balance is key for happiness.*