How I Fell or My Complete Opposite by Steven Rinella

Here is an article I just read that I think is really good since both male and female can learn from it.

Here was a man who thought he would always marry a women that was just like him, someone who loved the outdoors and hunting. He always envisioned her as the type who would jump for joy when he brought home dinner for her to skin.
He tried to persuade the women he dated to change their lifestyles to suit his own. Every time he met a girl, he’d charm her and talk about his wonderful visions and she wanted to love them too. But that always ended once he introduced them to it.
In Montana he finally started meeting outdoorsy women but each one was more trouble than the last.
He ended up meeting this women in New York. She had confidence in her choices that he would have thought silly if she wasn’t confident.
He wanted to get her on his own turf to see that they weren’t compatible. After all she didn’t represent the things that he wanted from life but he had to get over the crush.
She felt no need to pretend she wanted to be swept into his world, so if he wanted to see her they had to compromise. They had spent the time doing things no outdoorsman would ever do and he had the time of his life.
There was a force behind her opinions that made he unable to be steamrolled by him. It had made him stop focusing on what he wanted and forced him to stop being so selfish! To him is was a great feeling, like someone had opened up the curtains and let the light in.
Their romance wasn’t without its growing pains. He stormed out of their place after a fight and when she got back she let him know that if he did that again he couldn’t come back. She had made him feel small and it showed him something important.
That we play strange games with people we date, we tell them how easy it will be with us, but then things fall apart.
She lived outside of that charade. He knew it would be tough but also worth it, because she was willing to keep the same promises she asked me to make.
They went to a remote island paradise for their honeymoon. He was lying next to a woman who know what she wanted and who had the bullheadedness to get it. It made him feel secure, not threatened.
When he caught a fish and was excited about it he would yell for her to come over but she would just smile and wave being fine just where she was.
He was a rugged outdoorsman who married a city chick because she was not afraid to be herself.

*WOW, a man can learn that and change his mind…Wow. That is so GREAT. I wish more people can know this and learn from it. From both points of view and from the roles reversed. To stop being selifh and thinking you can change a person and have to have your ideal mate. I know I’m striving to be like her and I am thankful I already learned that lesson. You can be with someone that is imcompatible with you and still coexist! That is great! That is what love is about!*

Thank you Steven Rinella for writing that article and learning and growing!