Seeing the Red Flag

They aren't called red flags for nothing, red means STOP!

If things get serious, remember: Actions speak Louder than Words.
From the little things to the big things: signs you need to dump your relationship.

1) You are the last to know about exciting or bad news. If you are important to them you should be among the first to know.
2) They avoid meeting you family or friends. They should want to meet the people most important to you. Do not shrug it off as being shy, there are deeper problems there.
3) They don’t make sacrifices or compromises. Not the bending over backwards kind, just make sure each other is happy in the selfless union.
4) You can’t picture them in your future. Not seeing them being with you in what you life to do is not a happy ending.
5) They are too controlling. From telling you who you can or cannot see or what you can or cannot wear to little things like having their way
6) They ignore your feelings and just want to focus on how they feel. They treat your feelings like they don’t matter. Your partner should care about how you feel; they should put your feelings above theirs, and treat them as their own.
7) They have no confidence in you. They may treat you like a baby and don’t think you can do things on your own. If you can take care of yourself and you are confident in yourself then it’s hard to keep that when your partner doesn’t respect and acknowledge that and it can wear you down.
8) They criticize you or belittle you or hit you. Even if it is in a joking way, there is always some truth behind jokes, and it is not cool. It’s an exercise of possessiveness, control and ego. Abuse if not an acceptable expression of love.
9) They talk about plans that don’t involve you. Ok if it is a night with just the pals (girls/boys-night only). Vacations, events, social gatherings, etc, should include you if you are important, if not then they don’t see you in their future.
10) Your friends and family don’t like them. They know you best and they aren’t wearing the love goggles so they see things that you maybe blind to see.
11) They violated your trust. Cheating or lying they got caught in it, you might forgive them but you can’t forget it. It’ll be hard to regain the trust, usually once they lose it they can never get it back.
12) Unbalance dating. Relationships are fun when you both are able to contribute. It can fizzle out if only one of you is the only one coming up with fun things to do.
13) They act like they are above other; they will treat you, your family, and your profession as beneath them.
14) They take calls during a date, show that you aren’t a priority and may com in second.
15) His mom is their #1girl, if he brags about her and vacation together, you will have an intrusive mother in law.
16) They talk about how much things cost, it usually means they are insecure. They are either cheap or show offs that are insecure or shallow.
17) Their eye wanders to others or make comments/remarks that another person is hot. If they keep looking at the eye-candy it shows no respect for you and that they are shallow and judgmental.
18) You don’t laugh at the same things or get each other’s jokes. Not being able to laugh through life together can get dull.
19) They don’t allow you to follow your passion/hobbies/interests/ambitions. Life becomes dull without those and you will become less happy with them, yourself, and life. It is immature if they can’t handle separation or workout a way to enjoy it with you.
20) They don’t accept you for who you. Usually happens if you don’t have trait their ex had that you don’t, if they mention it then it usually means they are comparing you to them and you can not stack up to their ex and they are still wanting their ex and you just won’t ever be good enough, even if they mention how great it is that you have a trait they wanted that the ex didn’t have. It’s a box and no happy endings when there is a box you have to fit into.
21) They are dram prone and are high maintenance. If they act extreme or freak out it’s a sign of insecurity. If they expect too much then it’s a sign that material goods are more important than emotional bonding.
22) They remind you of your parents and make you feel like a teenager that can’t take care of yourself. If you live on your own then you know how bad that it, no one wants a parent as a spouse.
23) They carry more emotional baggage than you. Most likely they will start expecting you to help carry that extra baggage. Double Red flag: they ignore yours and never care to help you with your extra baggage.
24) They bring out the worst in you; someone who does that doesn’t have your best interest.
25) They get easily jealous, it shows that they are insecure and untrusting, not a good thing in relationship.
26) They want you to give up all you have established and move away from friends and family just to be with them.
27) They think that you are their world; they depend on you for fulfillment, saying that they will die without you. It is a weakness and you should want a partner that can live without you.
28) They always have to be right and always have to win arguments. They can’t save face and let it go, that has a tendency to lose people’s respect.
29) They try to change you and pressure you to “improve” yourself. There’s a lot of stress with that. Don’t think you need to change for someone, don’t change for someone, if you decide to change or improve yourself make sure it’s for you only. For there is no happy ending when you change for someone.
30) They become angry, vengeful, knight-in-shining-armor when you tell them how another did you wrong, for they can turn that anger and aggression on you.
31) They always underestimate what you can do or can not do and don’t think you can do things on your own. Just like the confidence issue.
32) They talk the talk but don’t walk the walk. They don’t follow through with what they say they’ll do or they go back on their word. Their words don’t match their actions.
33) They use nicknames instead of calling you by your real name, especially the generics ones. When they do that it usually because it’s so they don’t accidentally call you by their ex’s name, and most likely they use it on all their partners.